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“It feels good to share things”

– VSK

“Yeeees”

– Dr. KRU

It does feel good to share your thoughts,to unburden yourself of some of the baggage of the past.It takes a load off of your mind. The lightness that you feel can only be described as sublime.No more baggage.You feel like you can do anything and you hope to keep this feeling forever.Unfortunately,you can’t.

What do you do? You’re on cloud 9 but you know the cloud is gonna burst and you’re gonna ride down on the rain. So,once you are in such a state,you make resolutions of self improvement,about brightening your day and everyone else’s. You hop from cloud to cloud(I’m kinda digging the cloud metaphor) until you reach that cloud where you feel that you can ride down and land safely on your feet.You can’t stay up there forever right? You have to get yourself back on solid ground.You have to carry out your resolutions,not just make them, even during the tough times.You gotta stick to your resolutions.

And what’s a better time to make resolutions than the New Year? Of course,people say that new year resolutions are the first ones to be broken,but then again,people say a lot of shit.

I have found that sharing your pain unburdens you.However,you have to be careful about who you share it with.Not everyone can take it.And more importantly,not everyone cares.

While sharing does help a lot,it’s your final state that counts.Pain is,after all,your immediate response to something,some stinging,unpleasant perhaps shocking stimulus, stretching it out for too long only makes you suffer.You can share your pain,you can bitch about it,but then you have to accept it and move on.Pain cannot be avoided,suffering can be.

Or as Haruki Murakami puts it more elegantly in his book,What I Talk About When I Talk About Running,

“Pain is inevitable.Suffering is optional”.

p.s. Check out this beautiful and inspiring comic tribute to Nelson Mandela.